Monday, March 27, 2017

Living out fantasies (and forcing you to approve)

Nora Ephron once wrote in an essay about drag queens/transvestites: They don't want to be women; they want to be 18 year old prom queens.

Which explains Brucy Baby spending 100 thousand on surgery etc to look like a prom queen, not a 70 year old grandmother.

What this is about is someone who is unhappy who thinks X will make them happy. What they chose depends on culture: Right now we have broken families, estrogen in the drinking water, and boys growing up without a decent role model.

well, guys dressing up like women is nothing new: The Emperor of Austria's younger brother used to do that, and the family, a pious strict Catholic family, just shrugged. A quirk that didn't bother anyone.

And women pretending to be men so they could study or work is nothing new either.

But it goes beyond that, of course.

via Instapundit,  the explanation by lady who "passed" as a black, and even got a job as a black that she wouldn't have gotten as her own ethnic self:

See, she’d read her grandmother’s National Geographic magazines. So she knew about blackness.
“I’d stir the water from the hose into the earth … and make thin, soupy mud, which I would then rub on my hands, arms, feet, and legs,” Dolezal writes.
“I would pretend to be a dark-skinned princess in the Sahara Desert or one of the Bantu women living in the Congo … imagining I was a different person living in a different place was one of the few ways … that I could escape the oppressive environment I was raised in.”

well, I don't know about "princesses" living in the Sahara desert (Hirsi Ali might have a different take on this: FGM anyone?), but I have worked with the Bantu in both east and west Africa, and they probably worked harder in gardens than she did, not to mention they would be "sold" to the highest bidder if their family needed money..

In other words, she saw a fantasy, not reality. It is the equivalent of being a Disney princess, except if you really watch the classic disney films, most of these princesses were plucky and hard working (Cinderella cleaned the fireplace and kitchen, snow white cooked and cleaned for 7 men who worked in mines).

Here in the Philippines, no one gets hot and bothered by gays or trans or whatever: we are Catholic and like the Austrian royal family, shrug and tolerate eccentricities in families.

But saying such things are good and normal and using lawsuits to push others to say such things are good and normal is not quite th same thing.

if you are rich, you can do anything you want to: but insisting that others go along with your fantasy is something different.

If you have man parts you don't belong in a women's bathroom or locker room. By doing so, you are impinging on these women's right to privacy.

If you think you are black, fine: But you don't take a job away from a real black person who suffered real discrimination, not imaginary discrimination. In other words you harmed someone else by doing this.

And if you "think" your grandmother might be Native American, fine. But you shouldn't use Indian preference to get a job (that allows you to get a job over someone more qualified but of the wrong ethnic group, or maybe using this to steal the job from someone who grew up in the third world like poverty on "the res" know, the ones for which the law was passed to help) unless they check you CDIB card to prove it.

the old saying was I don't care what you do as long as you don't upset the horses. Eccentric people are that: eccentric. But forcing someone to pretend white is black and black is white is beyond charity and acceptance for an individual.

And when your fantasy impinges on the rights of others to privacy or to a job, then maybe someone should say: Wait a minute that's not right.

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