Advice for helping difficult elders

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having stubborn or abusive elders is hard at the best time but now trying to keep an eye on them during an epidemic is worse.

advice on how to help them without going crazy yourself.

Normal people care for each other.

Narcissists prefer to complain and abuse others.

Conservative Treehouse notes that the real VIPs are the ones who are helping, often by just doing their usual job.

If you feel comfortable sitting in your socially distant box and bitching about all things that are not right, or might be not be right….

Or, if you prefer to allow yourself to be overcome with dark imaginings simply because what cannot be done is more comfortable than the effort to oversee what needs to be done…. well, that’s okay. You can do that. And when you’re done doing that you’ll still be in the same place.

Or, you can check on older neighbors to make sure they are OK and make sure they have necessities. If older neighbors need something at the store, get it for them. Friends and neighbors who are anxious, send them a card or note with positive comments on it. Give people hope. If you don’t want to send a card, send an e-mail checking up on people. Order an extra lunch or dinner from a local restaurant just so you can give an tip to the delivery person who shows up at your door. Then stick the extra in the fridge and eat it tomorrow.

We can do this. No-one is saying this doesn’t suck; but some people know that standing around bitching about the comparative values of current life in suckdom doesn’t actually accomplish anything.

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and remember: This is a worldwide problem.





update: NYTimes: How to know when you can reopen the country: By testing who is immune to the virus and won't spread it.

I discussed earlier the types of tests available and that not all tested the same thing.

the only problem: He assumes a uniform federal policy is needed, one that ignores the differences in states but would push his idea of a one payer medical system. *

(he was involved in Obama care, meaning he wasnts the government to tell docs how to treat patients, and of course never mentions in his article in Atlantic magazine a while back says people over 75 should die, or to that effect, since their lives are useless.... hmmm...given this report out of the UK, it looks like he is not the only one with that idea._)

the state health departments are supposed to have the policies in place for local outbreaks; his plan would require the gov't to establish a brand new red tape filled bureaucracy from the bottom up, and take months if not years to put into place... that would slow things down. But never mind.

I agree everyone should have accesss to medicine, but after working for the feds for years, I know how that results in ratioining and making following the rules more important than actual patient care...

one reason that it took so long for the viral tests to get approved and distributed was the bureaucracy, and nearly every day one sees red tape standing in the way of medical care or getting needed equipment: and then they blame Trumpieboy of course, not the system, because politics.

as for the fact that some states seem to be a bit slow following the rules reminds me of John Ringo's description of the plague that started in a Chinese town and spread...in his book the Last Centurion... start reading HERE and ignore the bad language and black humor.



Sigh.